Take a quick look through the kindergarten window and watch how the kids interact. The kid who always starts the game, chooses sides, sets out the tea party and establishes the menu, that’s the one to watch. It may look bossy to you as a parent, and you’ll want to interfere, to tone down their rude behavior, but that’s the way it starts. Leadership doesn’t always occur from toughening a shy child. Sometimes it starts the other way around, socializing the child that is impervious to criticism, the child who won’t listen no matter what you say.
You Have To Recognize When It Occurs
Training a child to persuade rather than running roughshod over playmates is part of a parent’s duty towards the rest of civilization. Many parents job is this task out to teachers and caregivers because it’s so tough to do. Everyone wants to be a leader but few can be an effective and persuasive one. The days of the domineering boss or parent are long gone, the enterprising and creative leader is in the ascendant, and much in demand.
Often It Looks Just Exactly Like Rebellion
Handling rebellion as a parent is the most difficult of tasks. The rules and politenesses that make for a civilized discourse may look like a barrier to the young and impatient. But persuasion builds bridges between opposing camps and leads towards conciliation and hopefully progress.
Looking Back, Have You Tried Any Of These In Your Childhood?
When I was nine years old I led a party of four orphans over the back convent fence. Of course we were caught, captured and sent back, but it was the effort that counted.
Remnants of daylight still hung about the trees when we clambered over the fence. By the time we were all assembled across the road, night was closing in. A hint of smoke lingered in the air, making my eyes water.My hunger strike against the nuns hadn’t worked, and I organized the escape in angry retaliation. How about you?